So, you have the easy part done: you have a wedding card picked out. But, what the heck do you write in it?! This is the tricky part, and can take quite some time. Hopefully you didn’t wait until the last minute, but even if you did, this complete guide of “What to Write in a Wedding Card” is bound to help you out. No matter who the wedding card is for, you’ll be able to find quite a few examples in here to go off of. You can either stick with the message as it is, or add your own personalization to it. The choice is completely up to you! A wedding card is all about your personal relationship with the couple getting married.
General Wedding Card Tips
When Should I Send a Wedding Card?
Wedding cards are generally sent for anyone who wants to send wedding wishes to an engaged or newly married couple. Even if the couple has a small wedding that you were not invited to, you can still send them a nice card. Wedding cards are welcomed by anyone and any time!
It’s customary to send the wedding card any time in between the time that you receive the invitation to the wedding up to a few weeks after the wedding.
A wedding card can come in many different formats:
All of these forms of wedding cards are acceptable, and you don’t need to have more than one. But, if you bought the couple a gift from their wedding registry and want them to have a nice card from you as well, you can take one to the reception and drop it in the wedding card box or on the gift table.
What to Write in a Wedding Card
Honestly, there are no set rules on exactly what needs to be said in a wedding card. The message is all about you and your relationship with the couple!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Casual Message
The easiest thing to do is to go with a general casual message, especially if you don’t know the couple too well, or if you aren’t a very heartfelt person. It’s important to just be yourself, so a casual message might be the way for you to go. Short and sweet is perfectly fine, as long as you keep it nice and include a wish for the couple.
Here are some generic examples of a casual message to write in a wedding card:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Formal Message
Even if the wedding is formal, that doesn’t mean that you have to write a formal message in your wedding card. A formal wedding wish is always perfect to be timeless and romantic, so if that’s the message you want to send, a formal note is the best way to go.
Here are some formal examples of what to say in a wedding card:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Religious Message
If you are 100% certain that the couple is religious and worships regularly, then a religious message is the best way to go. These messages can mention God, quote scripture, and/or include a prayer you have for the couple. However, if you aren’t completely sure if the couple is religious or practices their religion, it’s probably best to opt for a general message.
Here are some great examples of what to write in a wedding card if you are choosing a religious message:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Humor Message
If you have a close relationship to the bride and groom, a humorous message can be an excellent way to go. When included with well wishes, your message is sure to be remembered by the happy couple.
However, there are messages to steer away from, as jokes can often be misperceived when written on paper:
Other than that, you know your relationship with the couple best. Humor in a wedding message is generally going to include some personalization, but here are some messages of what to say in a wedding card if you want to take the funny route:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Son or Daughter
It’s usually a huge deal when your son or daughter gets married. You’re most likely going to be feeling a ton of emotions, and it can be tricky to figure out how to get them on paper. The most important thing is that you’re wishing the couple well, but you should also be adding some personal touches into the message.
Here are some examples for what to write in a wedding card when it’s your son or daughter getting married:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Sibling
Sometimes sibling relationships are strained, so you might want to go for our general casual or formal messages.
But, in a lot of cases, your sibling is one of the closest people in your life, so it’s important for you to send them a great message when they get married. You grew up with them, so you can include inside jokes or some of your favorite memories together. Just make sure to include their new spouse in the message, too!
Here are some messages to go off of for what to write in a wedding card for a sibling:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Friend
It’s your choice whether you want to go classic with a friend’s wedding card message or if you want to make it specific and personal. It completely depends on your relationship: it can be serious, funny, personal, or sentimental. The choice is yours!
Here are some example’s of what to write in a wedding card to a friend to get you started:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Family Member (Cousin, Niece/Nephew, etc.)
A message to a family member getting married varies depending on your relationship — it can be very generic or very personal. It’s up to you and the message you want to send!
Here are examples of what to say in a wedding card to a family member:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Parent/Step-Parent
Writing a card for a parent can be difficult, especially if it’s a re-marriage. It’s important to only include happy thoughts in the card though, regardless of how you really feel about the marriage.
Here are some examples of what to say in a wedding card to a parent if you’re stuck on what to write:
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Co-worker
A co-worker can easily be a friend as well, so if that’s the case, refer to our “friend” section above. If you aren’t especially close to them, here are some examples of what to write in a wedding card to them: