So, you have the easy part done: you have a wedding card picked out. But, what the heck do you write in it?! This is the tricky part, and can take quite some time. Hopefully you didn’t wait until the last minute, but even if you did, this complete guide of “What to Write in a Wedding Card” is bound to help you out. No matter who the wedding card is for, you’ll be able to find quite a few examples in here to go off of. You can either stick with the message as it is, or add your own personalization to it. The choice is completely up to you! A wedding card is all about your personal relationship with the couple getting married.
General Wedding Card Tips — When Should I Send a Wedding Card?
Wedding cards are generally sent for anyone who wants to send wedding wishes to an engaged or newly married couple. Even if the couple has a small wedding that you were not invited to, you can still send them a nice card. Wedding cards are welcomed by anyone and any time!
It’s customary to send the wedding card any time in between the time that you receive the invitation to the wedding up to a few weeks after the wedding.
A wedding card can come in many different formats:
All of these forms of wedding cards are acceptable, and you don’t need to have more than one. But, if you bought the couple a gift from their wedding registry and want them to have a nice card from you as well, you can take one to the reception and drop it in the wedding card box or on the gift table.
What to Write in a Wedding Card
Honestly, there are no set rules on exactly what needs to be said in a wedding card. The message is all about you and your relationship with the couple!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Casual Message
The easiest thing to do is to go with a general casual message, especially if you don’t know the couple too well, or if you aren’t a very heartfelt person. It’s important to just be yourself, so a casual message might be the way for you to go. Short and sweet is perfectly fine, as long as you keep it nice and include a wish for the couple.
Here are some generic examples of a casual message to write in a wedding card:
- Congratulations! It used to be a faux pas to tell a couple congratulations, as it was considered to be telling the woman congratulations on finally landing a man. This is outdated, but if the couple is very traditional, it’s best to steer away from the term.
- Best wishes!
- Congratulations on your wedding!
- So happy for you!
- I love you. Congrats!
- Lots of love today and always.
- Hugs and kisses on your special day.
- Here’s to a lifetime of happiness in your marriage.
- Best wishes for a fun and happy future together.
- Here’s something to start your life together. For if you’re including a gift.
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Formal Message
Even if the wedding is formal, that doesn’t mean that you have to write a formal message in your wedding card. A formal wedding wish is always perfect to be timeless and romantic, so if that’s the message you want to send, a formal note is the best way to go.
Here are some formal examples of what to say in a wedding card:
- Best wishes to you on your wonderful journey as you begin your new lives together.
- Wishing you love, joy, and happiness on your wedding day as you begin your new lives together.
- May your love grow stronger as you grow old together.
- Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness together.
- May today be the beginning of a long and happy life together.
- Thank you for letting me share in this joyful day of yours. I wish you all the best as you embark on this marriage together.
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Religious Message
If you are 100% certain that the couple is religious and worships regularly, then a religious message is the best way to go. These messages can mention God, quote scripture, and/or include a prayer you have for the couple. However, if you aren’t completely sure if the couple is religious or practices their religion, it’s probably best to opt for a general message.
Here are some great examples of what to write in a wedding card if you are choosing a religious message:
- Wishing you a blessed marriage.
- God bless you both on this day with a lifetime of love and happiness.
- “Love is patient. Love is kind… Love never fails.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4-13
- May God bless you in your marriage.
- Mazel Tov! May your joy today fill the rest of your lives together.
- May you be blessed in your life together.
- Mazel Tov on your wedding!
- Mazel Tov on your marriage!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: General Humor Message
If you have a close relationship to the bride and groom, a humorous message can be an excellent way to go. When included with well wishes, your message is sure to be remembered by the happy couple.
However, there are messages to steer away from, as jokes can often be misperceived when written on paper:
- Snarky comments
- Anything that could be considered insulting
- Implying that either member of the union is the “better half”
- Any mention of taking way too long or too little time to get married
- Divorce jokes
Other than that, you know your relationship with the couple best. Humor in a wedding message is generally going to include some personalization, but here are some messages of what to say in a wedding card if you want to take the funny route:
- Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long and happy marriage!
- Thanks for the free food and drinks today as we watched you get married. Congrats!
- Wishing you lots of love — and lots of makeup sex! Only if this is appropriate for your relationship with the couple
- Our marriage advice: Love, honor, and… always assume your wife is right. Or any other funny advice that you have
- Love is all you need. Stick with that crap and you’ll last forever! Only if this is appropriate for your relationship with the couple
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Son or Daughter
It’s usually a huge deal when your son or daughter gets married. You’re most likely going to be feeling a ton of emotions, and it can be tricky to figure out how to get them on paper. The most important thing is that you’re wishing the couple well, but you should also be adding some personal touches into the message.
Here are some examples for what to write in a wedding card when it’s your son or daughter getting married:
- We love you both. We couldn’t be happier!
- We know we’re not losing a son/daughter, we’re gaining a son/daughter! Wishing much happiness to you both.
- We’re happy that you’ve found someone wonderful to share your life with. Best wishes!
- This is a wonderful day for our family, and especially for you two. May the happiness you feel today last a lifetime.
- We add a new member to our family today, and we couldn’t be happier. Best wishes to you both!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Sibling
Sometimes sibling relationships are strained, so you might want to go for our general casual or formal messages.
But, in a lot of cases, your sibling is one of the closest people in your life, so it’s important for you to send them a great message when they get married. You grew up with them, so you can include inside jokes or some of your favorite memories together. Just make sure to include their new spouse in the message, too!
Here are some messages to go off of for what to write in a wedding card for a sibling:
- I love you both. Today I gain a new sister/brother and I couldn’t be happier!
- It seems like just yesterday we were playing “house,” and now you get to do it in real life. I couldn’t be happier for the two of you, congratulations!
- Lots of love to the best brother/sister in the world and his/her new partner for life. May you have a marriage full of love and happiness!
- You bring my brother/sister so much joy. All my love!
- Deepest love and best wishes to you both.
- I’m so thankful to have a sister/brother like you. I wish you and your new husband/wife a lifetime of happiness!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Friend
It’s your choice whether you want to go classic with a friend’s wedding card message or if you want to make it specific and personal. It completely depends on your relationship: it can be serious, funny, personal, or sentimental. The choice is yours!
Here are some example’s of what to write in a wedding card to a friend to get you started:
- Here’s to love and friendship!
- Congratulations to a wonderful friend and his/her new husband/wife.
- Remember when we used to dream about our perfect man/woman? I’m so happy you finally found him/her. Best wishes in your marriage!
- The psychic we saw at the beach was right — you met the man/woman of your dreams. Best wishes to the both of you!
- I’m so happy to have you both in my life. Congratulations!
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Family Member (Cousin, Niece/Nephew, etc.)
A message to a family member getting married varies depending on your relationship — it can be very generic or very personal. It’s up to you and the message you want to send!
Here are examples of what to say in a wedding card to a family member:
- Love and hugs. Congratulations!
- So happy [name] has found “the one.” Welcome to the family!
- Thank you for letting us share your special day with you. Congrats!
- I couldn’t be happier to call you both family. Best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Parent/Step-Parent
Writing a card for a parent can be difficult, especially if it’s a re-marriage. It’s important to only include happy thoughts in the card though, regardless of how you really feel about the marriage.
Here are some examples of what to say in a wedding card to a parent if you’re stuck on what to write:
- Mom/Dad, I’m so happy you have found someone to share your life with. Congratulations!
- I’m ecstatic to see you so happy. Lots of love and best wishes
- To the best mom/dad I could ask for and his/her new husband/wife: much happiness and love to you both.
- So now we get to enjoy (stepparent’s name)’s cooking on holidays?! Yes! Congratulations. (or refer to something else you love about them)
What to Write in a Wedding Card: Co-worker
A co-worker can easily be a friend as well, so if that’s the case, refer to our “friend” section above. If you aren’t especially close to them, here are some examples of what to write in a wedding card to them:
- I’m so glad that I’ve gotten to know you at work, and I wish you two a long and happy life together.
- What a great day to celebrate my coworker and his/her new spouse. Best wishes to you both in your marriage.
- Wishing you success and happiness in your marriage.