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Planning a second wedding can be quite different from planning your first one, as there are a plethora of different etiquette elements to consider when putting the day together.From your children, family, friends, and more, there are a wide array of different things to factor into planning a second wedding properly.

While the old adage is second weddings shouldn’t be extravagant or lavish, you can make this one even more special than the first in many different ways.

Announcing Your Engagement

Your first time around, letting your parents know first was usually the first step in announcing your engagement. If you are getting married for the second time, though, there is a good chance you might have children. If this is the case, you should tell them first about what is going on, then you can alert your parents.

If you have children with your ex-spouse, it is a good idea to alert them fairly soon as well so they are aware of the developing situation. A small engagement party with a few close friends and family is a great way to let other people know.

Who to Invite

Just like sending out RSVPs to your first wedding, narrowing down who to invite can be an incredibly difficult part of any wedding. When it comes to the second go around, however, the task can be a little bit trickier.

While you may be on great terms with your ex-in-laws, you may want to avoid inviting them to the wedding ceremony and reception as it can make both them and other friends and family slightly uncomfortable in certain situations.

While you may have the desire to invite everyone you know to celebrate with you again, keeping a second wedding smaller and more intimate may be a much better route to go.

If you have kids, you can’t go wrong with having it only be a family affair with both sets of kids and your parents in attendance for the wedding. Otherwise, keeping it to just a few close family and mutual friends is perfect for the guest list.

What to Wear

Typically, a second wedding is a much more laid back, casual ceremony that doesn’t require the same elegance and flair as your first.

For the bride, skip on the flowing white dress and go for something with some color. You can’t go wrong with anything from a non-white designer dress to a fun cocktail dress.

Other Ways to Make a Second Wedding Special

There are also other ways you can make this second wedding a special and more intimate event, and one of the best ways to do so is with personalized vows. While you may have just recited what the officiant said last time, this is the perfect opportunity to write your own vows and let the other person know how you really feel.